5 Love Languages

So the 5 Love Languages is a phenomenon that has swept the nation (mainly Christian). Essentially it's supposed to help you understand what represents love to you and why? I have pinpointed my love languages below in bold. Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages for Singles help identify why your love language is what it is. I can easily address why the others don't apply to me.

Quality Time: I want you to have your own life. Of course I want you to spend time with me, but it doesn't have to be all the time. I want you to have your own life and interests, and I want mine.

Acts of Service: I can do anything. ANYTHING. I understand that if you do something it will help, but if you weren't here it would get done anyway.

Words of Affirmation: If I had to pick a 3rd language that I spoke, this would be it. Words of Affirmation are nice, "You're beautiful, I love you", etc. But I recognize that words are spoken with malice and intentional harm too easily. Words can be deceptive and not always able to be trusted.

Physical Touch and Gifts: I am addressing these together because they both are physical representation of love. It's very important that love is shown to me. I've lived a life where all I've seen is fleeting love or rather fleeting "love", so I need an external confirmation that love is there. So if you physically show your love, or do it by little gestures I know you are thinking of me. I know you are actually into me. That's a simple explanation, but it's all I got.

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.